FAQs

Can you give me legal advice?

No. I am not an attorney and any communication between us should not be considered legal advice. However, upon your request, I may offer referrals to attorneys or mediators.

How is coaching different from therapy?

This can be confusing because there is some overlap. We both listen to what you have to say and help you see the things you’re not seeing, but therapy is about healing and coaching is about empowering. In therapy there is an implication there is something within you or about you to fix or heal. In coaching, the assumption is there is nothing to fix. It is forward thinking towards growth and reaching goals. While therapy is looking into your past and healing trauma; coaching is looking into your future and helping you create awareness so you can move forward with intentional plans of action to meet the goals you set for yourself. Think of it like this: if you break your leg, you go to a doctor who sets it, puts it in a cast and possibly prescribes pain medication. Once your leg has fully healed, you may decide you want to run a marathon. For this, you find a trainer who will partner with you to create a plan and support you in its implementation to achieve your goal. The therapist is like the doctor and the coach is like the trainer.

I would also like to note, many people find it beneficial to work with both a therapist and a coach simultaneously. This allows them to move forward in creating what they want in their life while also attending to any trauma that may arise as they do so.

Can’t I just get all the support I need from friends and family?

While friends and family may provide an immense amount of love and support while you transition out of married life, they may also have very strong opinions about the actions you should take or how you should feel.

As your coach, I create an objective, non-judgmental space for your free expression. We work together to find what is true for you so that you are making decisions that serve your best interest and that of your children.

I’m not sure I want a divorce – can you still help me?

Yes. If you are feeling stuck or unable to make a decision about moving forward, I can help you. If you decide you would like to work on creating a better relationship with your partner, we can work towards that as well. It only takes one person showing up differently in a relationship to make a major shift.

What do I need to prepare before we work together?

Absolutely nothing. Where you are today is the perfect starting point.